I am currently single. But when I think of the kind of guy I’d like to end up with, the one thing (amongst others) that pops into my head is that he should be chivalrous. Chivalrous & still very manly. Not like Singaporean men who hold their girlfriends bags (seriouslyyyy – you buy a $4,000 Chanel bag to have your man carry it for you, it’s disturbing) – but a man who’ll open doors for a woman, respect her, avoid profanities in her presence, help her carry her shopping bags, assist an old woman crossing the road – those old fashioned, almost archaic, values that Asian men have completely lost.
Points in Case (so so so many): the male in house photographer ignoring us when we were lugging cases of heavy magazines, my own brother concentrating on his laptop screen when I was walking to and fro with heavy luggage, the way men absolutely ignore you when they see a lone woman struggling with a heavy bag on a conveyor belt.
Can we please have back the olden days? Yes, we are feminists, we want to be treated equally, but come on! We cook, help you do your laundry, serve you food and drinks when you’re sitting on your ass playing scrabble, and you can’t as much as lift your finger to help us!
There’s lots and lots of fish in the sea – some sharks, some sting rays, some goldfish, some clown fish, some shrimps – and it’s scary to think that wanting someone who’s macho & chivalrous seems to be a utopia.